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It’s been really hard to keep my oar in the water, beyond managing, what has personally been a really really resilience building interval of life. My husband and I are in our 40s and we take care of four elders all with significant issues these last few months, whether it’s falling downstairs, off a ladder, hospital admissions… and having to move one from California to Michigan to be admitted urgently into an assisted living. And trying to visit daily so she feels comfortable and loved and reestablishing her life in Michigan…A car accident that totaled a car and created a new personal project to solve, including a concussion and a neck injury…. It’s been making phone calls when I can., having a community party to help people feel supported and connected, and now I got Covid for the very first time ever. As do two of our elders, we made it five years! Everyone’s doing OK, but it just seems really hard to get out of the tending to urgencies in my own household. The house is pretty messy. There’s been a lot of food ordered out. Doing bare minimum in my own small business (hubs works in ER) and then just trying to deal with the constant flow of news that is not a surprise but all of it requires attention, action/phone calls and processing. I know I can do this with the help of my community but my cigarette equivalent would be any crunchy snack and we have been crunching, baby. Thank goodness for close friends, and my husband and the privilege of having a therapist. We feel a little like our canteen is full of dirt. But also grateful for food, shelter, stability, and the stretch and personal growth. Both/and. Trying to seek and recognize joy moments.

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